The harmony I am referring to is the one found in the natural rhythms of all life. Learning to dance with it and eventually become the flow itself can be a difficult lesson for the majority of us. I know it was and to some extent still is for me. I believe it is difficult because in order to be truthfully in harmony with the essence of life it requires true humility and a deep willingness to let go of old, ingrained societal patterns for us to grow and be who we really are.
I often say to myself: “Someone has to take the first step to change this dynamic and it might as well be me!” However, like most everything in life, there is a “correct” way of taking this step, so I have learned that I need to take it just for love and love alone with no strings attached; out of love for my Creator, love for all life and ultimately, love for Self. The key to make this pivotal change in any dynamic a reality, which in turn will affect the entirety of creation, rests in being completely humble and thus completely in love with our Creator.
From personal experience I have often believed to be doing something out of pure love only to realize at a later time that I was pretending to be “the better person” in the situation just to “be right;” I was being “humble” in name, not in fact.
I have often asked myself, how do I know if I am coming from love instead of pride and vanity? One thing that life has taught me is that the answer to any of my questions will be revealed through the many trials and errors, the repetition of the same old lesson reappearing in a seemingly new disguise and, to be honest, the revelation of truth is always bitter-sweet to swallow, especially if I am attached to having things turn out my way or I have expectations from the people involved.
Letting go of attachments and expectations, really letting go of them, is a process that can take a long time, even lifetimes to learn and one has to revisit the painful place many times over, try everything possible and imaginable to get the wanted result until the moment when, out of pure exhaustion, one finally turns away from the old and asks Spirit to show how to do it properly. This is the moment when real healing begins.
I have learned to distinguish when I am coming from my egomind instead of my humble and loving heart because of how I “feel.” Feelings are the key that tell me what my state of consciousness, my identification with something is at any moment. We all have had the experience some time in our lives when something just doesn’t “feel right;” it is a strong feeling in both the gut and heart that we cannot prove but we know is true.
I have observed myself talk to someone about some wrong that was done to me and try to defend my position by giving all the reasons why I am right and the other person involved is wrong. I am building a case in my favor against another to prove to the world that I am right. Yet, as I speak so fervently and so firmly convinced of my righteous argument I “feel” the agitation in my gut; I feel an energy pushing against me and my words and I notice myself pushing back in order to be right and to maintain my position.
The more I “feel” this internal discomfort, the more I try to find support outside me that my argument is valid and correct. At this point I can collect a number of supporters and tell my “conscience” that everything is in order and push away the discomfort. The “feeling” of being right only lasts so long until something brings back the internal discomfort. I can go on and on in circles repeating the same scenario until the day when I stop and decide to take a look at it and what is trying to show me instead.
This is what I call my first point of “surrender;” there will be other points along the way, each marking a step forward or backwards depending on my choices through my “awakening from illusions” journey. Thus the healing cycle begins from my first point of surrender and Spirit will show me the next step if my heart is open and willing to accept full responsibility in any and every situation for the next “feeling,” the attachment or expectation that I still hold onto in order to win a battle against myself.
I often find myself locked into a repetitive pattern of behavior and unable to move beyond it. I am frozen in a state of consciousness which produces the same results over and over. In this scenario nobody wins and everyone, including me remains locked into their state of consciousness and unable to get out. The vicious cycle repeats itself indefinitely until one person is able to see beyond the pattern and search for something more, something new. In true surrender, one can embrace the totality of any situation and realize that the other person is reacting out of projections of their pain and fears.
When I am able to have some distance from a situation, I am able to identify myself with the other person because I have been in their shoes and know their pain, I can feel compassion for them and let them be instead of judging them and building a case against them to prove myself right. I decide to take responsibility for my part in preserving the status quo and instead take actions towards changing it by coming from a different state of consciousness, I can let go of my expectations in the outcome. It is then that the energy of the loving heart is activated and miracles can happen. Divine love is in charge now and it always acts for the good of the Whole.
In order to allow Divine love to flow freely, I need to get out of the way and simply love and let life be. Yes, it sounds simple and it is in principle. However, reaching the level of acceptance to let go is no easy task and the stripping away of the egomind’s attachments can be very painful.
One thing that Spirit repeatedly whispers to me is that every state of consciousness is sacred to God and I need to learn to respect that at all times. This is a tall order and I am a work in progress as I do my best to practice the ways of Spirit and to keep balance between the Divine and the Human in me. It is quite the dance!
In the end, when everything old is stripped away, all that remains is Self and a “feeling” of peace and love for Self and for all Life; then, the desire to help others free themselves from themselves and be “in love” takes over. The loving heart respectfully and patiently shows me the way back to who I AM.